Talking About Your Sex Life? Learn About The Do’s and Don’ts!


Talking About Your Sex Life? Learn About The Do’s and Don’ts!

The Do’s and Don’ts When Talking About Your Sex Life

This goes without saying. Talking About Your Sex Life is an entirely private affair. These details should remain exclusive to the parties involved as much as possible. Nevertheless, sharing some of the aspects of your union is considered healthy. Especially when you share with your best friend or a sibling. Caution should be taken to avoid sharing more than what is necessary and jeopardizing the relationship.

So, when is sharing considered healthy, and when does it become too much? Establishing the parameters to disclosing matters about your sex life will not only help maintain a healthy level of secrecy, but it will also save your relationship. We’ll look at some of the common do’s and don’ts when talking about your sex life.

The Do’s

1. Talk to a friend

I’m sure you have been told to withhold details about your sex life at some point in life. And while it is understandable that not everyone prefers sharing their private business. For some women, talking to a close friend is actually helpful and something that should be done more often. According to therapists, talking to your friend about your sex life is an appropriate way to de-stigmatize this important part of your day-to-day life. Its an ideal opportunity to learn more and empower yourself.

Talk to a friend about your sex life including topics that are seen to be hard to bring up. These include choices that might not have been the best in your life. Also, violations of consent are very important. According to doctors, talking about topics that look like they bring up shame helps to relieve the burden and promote positive healing.

2. Visit a professional

While talking to a friend is the most recommended way to seek for intervention, it might fail to solve the problem. In such a scenario, it’s advisable to seek for professional help. Prepare yourself before the appointment by drafting a set of questions you wish to ask, the medications that you are taking, and any other important information.

Whether the problem is a physical or emotional one, the professional can only help when you disclose as much information as possible. So, ”don’t hold back” be honest with them this is the ideal time to spill your guts. According to experts, having a problem in your sex life should trigger a visit to a sex therapist. Sex therapists are trained to handle a range of sex life issues ranging from sexual function, lost intimacy, among others. Talk to your partner through the idea, find a therapist that you are comfortable with, then book your appointment.

3. Ask for your partner’s consent

According to sexologists, many men are uncomfortable with their sex life being discussed with other people, especially when they are not involved. So, before you talk with your friend about last night’s parking lot escapade, make sure that your partner is good with it. And even when given the go-ahead from your spouse, limit what you disclose as you might actually harm your relationship.

The Don’ts

1. Avoid online sex (Cybersex)

According to research, more than 15 percent of teenagers has sent explicit pictures, videos and text messages to people online.  This is known as Cybersex or online sex.  And as much as this sounds casual and safe, you should never initiate online sex, unless you really trust the person you are engaging with.  Not only is it dangerous for your safety, but it might also be a trap to set you up and expose your sexual practices.  Some people don’t know they are doing it or are obvious to the process as it all starts with ‘dirty flirty messages, and before you know it, pictures videos and comments are all over Social media for the world to see.  So be cautious, deception is common with Cybersex, you never know if they are honest or trustworthy enough to have your intimate material.  Therefore, refrain from engaging in online sex as much as possible, until trust is reciprocated.

2. Don’t bring details of your sex life in your workplace

While your colleagues might be dying to hear about how your date went, I’m pretty sure they are not interested to hear about what went on between the sheets. Your sex life has no place in the workplace. Simple!

Try as much as possible to avoid vulgar and bathetic phone conversations with your colleagues around the workspace.  Simply excuse yourself or refrain from such conversations at work. Things might get misinterpreted and create unpleasant hurdles in the workplace. Just like the saying ‘don’t mix business and pleasure,’ avoid bringing your sex life at your workplace.

The last word

To sum it up, there are rules to be obeyed.  Your sex life remains private, and nothing should come out, especially when your partner is uncomfortable about it.  If you must talk about it, make sure your partner agrees to it, only speak to your best friend, sibling, or professional, and avoid sharing your sex escapades on social media and at your workplace.  If these rules are followed, you should have no problems when it comes to talking about your sex life.


Comments (5)

  • Egor Reply

    A lot of guys i know like their GFs to talk to their friends about their sex lives. They probably feel that their GFs friends would want them. lol. Greedy buggers.

    December 3, 2018 at 6:33 pm
  • Nito Burgos Reply

    I’m a barber so I’ve heard alot over the years lol but I always give neutral advice

    April 16, 2019 at 6:16 am
  • Cindi Reply

    I always talk with my girls about sex, its just what we do. But i do see the point of the article and some good points were said, especially about the workplace. I’ve had backstabber’s at work who had been talking about what i got up to in town one night and it caused problems. #LessonLearned

    August 2, 2019 at 8:21 am
  • M. Alyona Reply

    Brilliant for including “anonymous” cybersex. The horny mind has gotten more then one person at best heartbroken and at worst facing criminal charges or being blackmailed/exposed. Safe cybersex exists but be smart

    March 18, 2020 at 7:54 pm
  • Mark Chambers Reply

    A wicked article. Never bring your sex life into work. Gotta keep that separate.

    August 6, 2020 at 8:27 pm

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